Richard Robert Murphy-Harris

I am gunner talk about my pregnancy from start to finish, here go's.

I kept feeling sick for about a week and i was getting so nerves has i was suppose to have an
operation so i thought i'll do a pregnancy test just to make sure that i wasn’t pregnant.
Well i got my pregnancy test so then i thought oh i'll do one in evening and see what it says so
I’m there sitting on the toilet waiting for the result 2minutes later it says I’m pregnant then
i thought oh my god as if my pregnant no way my boyfriend was in the bathroom as well looking at it
aswell we both was really shocked still couldn’t believe me pregnant no way its lying so i went to
my bedroom getting change for bed and that.
We was both lying thinking am i really pregnant? so i thought wait till morning and i'll do another
one then.
So morning came couldn’t sleep the night before thinking am i really pregnant, well i went to the
toilet with my pregnancy test so waiting for the results and got the results and said i'm pregnant
and i thought at this time two pregnancy test can’t be lying so i went with my test to show my
boyfriend that i'm not lying.
So by this point i thought i'm pregnant and I’m suppose to be having my operation i knew i
couldn’t have this test done if i was pregnant.
So i booked myself in to the doctors and my doctor did another test to be shore, so i had another
one done and had to wait 3 days but i knew i was with the previous pregnancy tests said i was.
The day finally came when i had to phone the doctors up and the woman on the phone said i was
pregnant felt really happy that i was pregnant and we told all the family and work everyone was
happy for us both.
The day came when i had my 12 week scan it was a shame that my boyfriend couldn’t get the day of
work to come with me so instead my mum and my sister in law Lisa came.
Lisa was really excited to see that i had a baby inside me and we was both in the room with a woman
getting things sorted she put the camera on my belly and i then i could see my baby waving at me
saying hello mummy can’t wait to see you, then my mum came in the room and seen the baby on the
monitor everyone was excited i got only one photo for now and she told me i was 11 n half weeks
pregnant.
So than after everything was done i was so excited and i phoned up my boyfriend and told him all the
good news and he was so happy.
Has time went on i got really excited that i just wanted to see are baby.
In December 2008 i got a letter threw saying that iv got my appointment for my 20weeks scan has time
went on we was both thinking shall we leave it has a surprise or shall we ask what were having.
The day came for my 20weeks scan hippeeee where finding out what were having???? so i told all my
family and my partners family to make a bet what where having most people said girl?????
Has we went into the room she was checking everything and i asked can you tell what it is boy or
girl? she said i think its a boy and i was like is it or aint it in my head and she said yeah its a
boy i was like hipppppppppeeeee where having a baby boy, soon has we left the hospital i text
everyone in my phone said its BOY everyone text back saying congratulations, so now i was wanted to
buy everything for the baby which we did. All the family bought loads a stuff to i thought this boy
is so spoilt i had to tell my mum n dad stop buying stuff no room and my boyfriend mum was running
out of ideas so she knitted instead and they looked so lovely what she knitted the best for me was
the shawl.
I kept going for my regular check ups and to see my midwife and plus also to here my baby boy heart
beat what a little mover her his everyone kept saying..
well i was getting so closer to my due date has we was in April, well i had my last and final check
up with my midwife on the 7th April 2009 we made sure that my blood was okay which they was and she
told me to get on the bed to here our baby boy heart beat my boyfriend Richard and my mum was with
me she put the micro phone on my belly to find his heart beat she tired for 10mintues but i didn’t
think nothing off it i thought hes just a little mover, so then i had to go up to maternity ward in
Bradford and i had another check up with the doctor by this point i could tell there's summate up
with the look on her face so then she bought another doctor in and then she checked the find his
heart beat and then i heard them awful words I’m sorry your baby died i was like as if you've got
it wrong crying my eyes out saying it's wrong I’m due next week you've got it wrong which they was
right that he died. So my mum went out to phone my dad and Richard stayed with me and when my mum
came back Richard phoned his mum and sister up and my dad went to get my brother and they came up
with the upsetting face especially my brother bless him he didn’t know where to look got all the
cuddles and kisses, my family told my other brother him and his wife came up then and said I’m
sooo sorry babe you two got to stick together and by this point Richards mum n sister were on
there way up to the hospital.
Richard phoned his dad he couldn’t believe what had happen but he didn’t come up for some reason
which we didn’t mind anyway,
My brother and his wife went by this point and Richards mum n sister was here crying saying I’m so
sorry love you both.
My other brother who lives in Amsterdam phoned saying sorry to you both.
Has we all calmed down the doctors came back in saying we got to start things going so i had to take
a tablet to start thing off and saying ill be coming back in on Thursday to give birth to our baby
boy that same night on 7th April I already started with pains and the following day on Wednesday we
went for a meal me Richard mum dad and my contractions got even worse i thought I’m having my meal
before going to hospital i thought iv got to be in labour now so then we went back to my mum and
dads and phoned the hospital so we went up and check me over said i wasn’t in labour yet. So me
and Richard went home then to chill out during that same day my contractions got even worse by this
point it was 1.00am in the morning i knew i couldn’t sleep the was really bad got it in the bath
to see if it will just ease the pain which it did but not for long, so me and Richard phoned up both
families saying at my contractions was even bad. Richard phone the delivery suite and said that my
contractions got even worse they bought up my details and said that I’m due to come up in a couple
of hours anyway so they said just come up, me and Richard got stuff ready got my paper work together
and went down to my mum and dad and went up in my dads car, the time we arrived at maternity ward
was 3:30am early hours on Thursday 9th April 2009,they gave me morphine to get me to sleep for a
couple of hours which it did my mum and dad went to sleep in the car and Richard stayed with me. By
this point the morphine ran out and i was in pain again then the midwifes change over at 8:30 and my
new midwife was called Helen and check me and said I am actually in labour I thought woophoo my baby
is gunner be coming out and i also felt sad. So Richard phoned my mum and told her and she was on
her way round and Richard phoned his sister and his mum up that I was in labour so they both was
gunner get ready and be up so during that time i was in serous pain with my contractions and i had
the epidural in and the doctor but it wrong so many times and i was getting so angry that i was in
pain with contractions and also for them to get my epidural in. Hurry up i was thinking in my head i
felt sick headache pains. Then final i could relax for a bit tried to sleep by this point Richards
mum and sister turned up and i was in more pain and they was gunner put my epidural in again i was
in alot of pain Yes finally they got it in right so i went to sleep for a bit my mum n dad kept
popping in and out and by this point Richard went to get summit to eat and i knew i needed to push
Richard sister kept saying shall i go and get my brother has she knew i needed to push so then
everyone came in and Richard was with me holding my hand all the way threw, Helen my midwife knew i
needed to push so she got everything ready and everyone went out so they was just me and Richard and
2 midwife, every time i got a pain i knew i had to push i didn’t scream or anything i was quiet
good for my first time and finally our baby son came out and i was upset that he's not alive but my
midwife said he looked just the same has any other baby does when he came out i pushed for
11minutes. We already named are baby once we found out what we was expecting his name is Richard
Robert Murphy-Harris she weight Richard 5lbs 6oz he was tiny but big if you know what i mean. So
before everyone came back me and Richard spent sometime which our son took photos of him and we told
are family to come back and everyone holded him and took more photos he looked like his daddy so
much, the time came for me to go home and i was so upset that he should be coming home with me not
staying here.
Me and Richard spent time with all of are family.
And the hospital arranged the furnel what they paid for and only what we had to do was the flowers
and some food for after everything went well and my partner carried the coffin to the snow drops
area the day went well and all the family was so supportive.
During May 2009 we had to go to back to the maternity ward to find out why he died from the blood
test that they took from baby Richard has the Doctor was reading the results out to us they
couldn’t find a reason why our beautiful baby boy died so me and my partner was even more upset!
And now were looking forward to the future a head hope to have another one soon.
So in the end I had a still birth and he was born on the 9th April 2009
5lbs 6oz.
Love you Baby Boy from Mummy & Daddy xxxx